Monday, September 10, 2007

Ponder...

Though it has been regurgitated quite enough already, I have a few thoughts on Britney Spears.
Brit Brit…I grew up with you. I was pregnant with my first child as you were with your second. I was diagnosed PPD as you were shaving your head and trying to find a new identity.
Though I am simply a Fabulous Blogger and you are The Superstar, I feel your pain.
You were so cemented in who you were before, that it is a painful floundering scramble to regain any of that after motherhood. With every child, there is born a new you; you have different habits, different hobbies, different goals. While the New, Improved Mother Version is a wonderful thing, you have to let go of the Original.
This is incredibly difficult when you loved the Original, when the Original was a fabulous, glittery entity.
In reality, it doesn’t matter who you are. The effect is the same whether you were a Dean’s List Theatre Student or The Biggest Celebrity Ever.
There is a grieving process. You shaved your head. I took the more subtle approach of bleaching my hair and gaining 20 pounds. Either way, it is the modern equivalent of sackcloth and ashes.
There will be mistakes. There will be people who judge. There will be rude comments. There will be pain as you try to reconcile what everyone thinks you should be and who you feel you are. Just hold on. It will get better. It will get easier.
For what it is worth, you handled that VMA/Sarah Silverman thing much better than I would have. If she had spoken about my kid, called her a mistake when I thought she may have been listening, maybe even staying up late just to see Mommy on TV…there would have been bloodshed. Much much bloodshed. Good on ya for still performing.
And that is all I have to say about that.

4 comments:

Elizabeth said...

I really loved this post. I think as moms we all need to cut each other some slack, and I just really liked how you were seeing her life through all the things you've been through too. I've never liked SS, to be honest, but I also thought it was shitty that she'd bring up Britney's kids. I just think it's gross when people act like they're so cool because they'll say anything. You're not cool, you're a jerk.
Anyway, I too feel for Britney. Even if she does make $750,000 more dollars than I do a month.

My name is Rima. said...

Damn, but you have a way with words! I really identify with the part about "with every child, there is born a new you." It's so true.

Jennie said...

Thank you. I'm not a mom, but it makes me angry that everyone tuned in to watch her IN HOPES that she would fail, because, wow, a lot of people got pleasure out of tearing her down. And I don't get that. Thankfully, there are some people who still see her as a human being.

the Girls' Moma said...

My husband started to insult her, how she looks, and I got really upset. Hey! What? She looks like she HAD TWO KIDS? PLEASE! Now, maybe she should have rethought that outfit, or decided whether she really wanted to go through with it, but don't talk badly about how she looks. She looks great for all she's been through.

So says I.