Monday, March 15, 2010

Fabulous Day 6

Windblown Sea Hair and a Handsome Husband.

1 comment:

Emily said...

Hey Rebecca!

Thank you for your comment on my blog - this was the only way I knew to reach you, so I thought I'd reply here. First of all - long time, no blog! How are you and your little family? Vi? Carly?

Yes, I have talked to someone. In fact, DH and I went to couples counseling for about 6 months to no avail. He did not remember (or care to remember) any of the things she would ask us to do, so I was the only one truly trying to make things better. He feels that all the problems we have are my fault (or at least not his fault) so he is resistant to change anything himself. I finally gave up on that and started going to counseling by myself. It has helped a little, but my counselor's big solution is that I need more "me" time. I understand that's important, but I only get about 2.5 hours a day with my son as it is, so I'm not going to sacrifice any of that time. And my counselor recognizes the kind of shit I deal with with DH, and so much of my issues stem from him, so she knows that without his cooperation I'm not going to get very far. I don't want to go on anti-depressants or any kind of drugs - I just don't want to be medicated. So I'm sure it's partially post-partum depression, partially a husband that makes me feel worthless, partially a kid that is growing up too fast, and partially my own long-suffered problems with self-esteem. One messed up girl, right? I think the blog has just become a way to try to get it all out of my head instead of letting it fester. I really appreciate your care and concern, I'd love to be able to keep in touch with you more regularly since it sounds like you've been through some of this before. Much love to you and yours - Em.